How I used facebook to propose to my church member, says Bauchi Groom

Rauf Oyewole

The newly wedded groom in Bauchi has revealed how he could not approach the love of his life due to shyness and headed for Facebook App to propose to one of his church members whom he has been in love with.

Philemon Yakubu, who got married with his wife Mrs. Philemon in-ground style at the St. Matthew's Barracks Church, School of Armoured of the Nigerian Army Barracks, Bauchi on Saturday 1st of June, said that he was intimidated by his wife's physique. 

He said that “We met at the church. I have been seeing her. You know when a man is looking for someone to settle down with, he talks to this girl and talks to that girl and then at the end of the day I felt those ones will not be suitable.

 

“Even though it was somehow like I would not summon the courage to talk to her because of her nature and looking at me as one who has a small stature. Then I just summoned courage. I didn't have the boldness in the first place.

“I had to speak to her through facebook. That’s how we started. She wanted to do shakara as God would have it she accepted.”

He said that he loves his wife because of so many things, pointing out that she’s a dedicated Sunday school teacher. “I felt this woman is suitable for me because she will understand my children better and will know how to bring them up in a godly way,” added. 

He said that her beauty also attracted him. Philemon said she's all that he wanted. “Above all she is a God fearing woman.”

He said that both of them enjoyed acceptance from their parents who they said are people that believe in the choice of the children, provided they love each other.

“Some will say you will have to marry your tribe, some will say you will have to go to this person. My parents supported my decision. When I brought her to them they accepted her.”

Also speaking, the bride Mrs Philemon said that she almost rejected him due to her bitter experience from another man who broke up with her.

“I didn't want to accept his proposal because he walked to me when I just came out of a relationship that didn't work out. I felt ‘all men are the same’, let me not rush to make another mistake. 

“People encouraged me to walk onto him because he lacked the courage to propose to me. I said it is an abomination for an African woman to do that. He later proposed using Facebook and that is how we started.”